Almost two weeks back at work. That means it is almost two weeks that I last wrote about my life. Since then my children started school, I started work, and so forth. Nothing has really changed. My work is still extremely demanding. My children more so, but I cannot wait to get home and spending time with them.
I honestly don’t think some SAHM’s actually know how lucky they are to be home with their children.
One of the reasons we are not on talking terms with FIL is that he committed himself to take my DD to ballet last year. He decided that it won’t be convenient for him to take her anymore, but he never informed us. He just did not pitch. It was not important enough for him, just to pick up the phone and tell me or DH (his own son) that he won’t be taking her to Ballet anymore.
This posed a huge problem, because she was able to walk, she has been addicted to Ballet. She use to breath, eat, sleep Ballet. So this was a huge blow to a then 6 year old. It was her birthday a week before that and he did not even come around to wish her happy birthday. We ended up by telling her that Granddad moved far away, and that it is not possible for him to take her to Ballet anymore. A few months later she then posed the question that totally stumped me. She wanted to know how far was far. And then asked if he moved as far as Ouma and Oupa (my parents) and without any thought, we said yes, so far. She then proceeded to ask then why have we not visited him and why has he not visited us? As it is not really that far. It is only a two hour drive. I still owe her an answer.
My dad actually saw him(FIL) at our local shopping centre, and he mentioned it to my DD, and she responded by telling my dad that he should rather not talk about him. Because in her eyes she does not exist anymore. Now, I have never, not once said anything slightly negative about him (FIL) nor have my DH. We will always have a FIL conversation when both the children are asleep. I really don’t know how to deal with this, as DH has finally decided that his dad is just not worth it, and he has written him off.
So back to today. Last week at school, we got a little note from a local Ballet teacher and that she offers classes at one of our local schools. Unfortunately this school is not without walking distance, so there is no way for my DD to get to the Ballet. She only saw the leaflet and was absolutely over the moon that she will be doing Ballet again. I tried to explain to her that there is just no way for her to do Ballet. Hell, I even went as far as searching the net for a Ballet class for her age group on Saturdays. I am willing to stop working part time over Saturdays just so that she can do Ballet. Well, it did not go down well, as she was adamant that she will be doing Ballet this year. I eventually phoned the lady just to find out whether there is anyone from our school that wants to do Ballet etc. She mentioned that she will keep my number incase she hears of someone that will be able to give my daughter a lift.
Now, that sounds ideal, but my daughter is only 6 and a half. You can’t just get someone to take her and plonk her down at the school etc. So that was a no-no for me.
Well, it sorted itself out. So my prayers actually worked, as I was so desperate, and I just had no way out. I pay someone to pick up my children, take them to school and fetch them again and drop them at home. Even though I pay the lady, she is also a friend of mine. But because the Ballet is really out of her way, I never even considered asking her to take my DD. She saw me briefly last week and mentioned something about the Ballet. Well, she phoned me Saturday to say that her daughter will also be doing Ballet, so on Wednesday this week, my DD is starting Ballet.
I can’t tell you how glad I am!
